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Further basement work...
myntik1:
**the following rant is sort of off topic, feel free to skip this post**
No work was done in the days leading up to or after X-Mas. It's our first year in our new house so everyone had to come over. I was told to clean up the basement or face her wrath. My brother-in-law came over and was guilted into offering his help on my basement. I refused his help. At times I'm stubborn and this is one of those times. 2 years ago I went over to his house countless days to help him build a 3 season porch and to help him build a frame around his deck. In the past we've loaned him a car for two weeks, and we've picked one of his daughters up from daycare numerous times. In the six months since we've been here he's never offered to help paint, move a chair anything. And the coup de grace - the main reason we're in a rush to do the basement is HIS other daughter wants to live with us. When that happens space will be at a premium so the basement will go from storage to an office and a playroom. His daughter can't stand her stepfather who relocated them to TX, so she wants to come back to MA. My sister-in-law treats her like dirt (since she's from a previous marriage) so she doesn't want to live with them. Do I want to take on a rebellious teen? Not exactly, but where I come from family comes first. So we extended an offer for her to live with us. She was going to come down around X-MAS, but her mom and stepdad said she would have to finish out the yr down there So unless she changes her mind she'll come up to stay with us in June. So after all I've done for this clown he has to be guilted into it by their father to offer to help me with my basement. I turned down his offer and now I'm the bunghole. I would rather hire someone from craigslist to come help me. If I give you a ride I don't expect you to return the favor. If I go to your house every other day for 3 months after work and help you improve your house - I'm expecting you to at least offer when it's my turn.
On a side note, I get to work this morning and my boss tells me thjat since I've put in a ridiculous amount of hours in the last few weeks I should go home. I figure I'll be able to put in a 4-5 hours on my basement and make some headway. 20 minutes in and my little helper (my 2 yr old) comes down stairs and knocks over a can of drylock. Before I even have a chance to get upset he says he wants to fix things like daddy. He's the reason I work like a dog 6 days a week.
Sorry for the senselesss rant, I just had to get it off my chest. Hopefully, during nap time I can make some progress and get my basement thread started.
ChadTower:
Hey, at least that spot on the floor has about 45 coats of Drylok on it now.
I've found that here in MA 95% of the time when you help someone with something as you've described they have no intention of ever returning the favor. I've also found taht most of the time even if they offer they don't want to actually do it, it's all for show. Wasn't like that back home but I've learned over time not to expect much from people here even when I'm in the middle of helping them. I actually had one guy yell at me that I wasn't doing enough when I was doing nearly all of the work helping him move from one apt to the other. This is while I'm moving his 27" tv up to the third floor and he's sitting on the stairs. Keep in mind I barely knew the guy, he was just a local message board guy that needed some help, so I showed up.
mr.Curmudgeon:
--- Quote from: ChadTower on December 31, 2007, 02:52:25 pm ---I've found that here in MA 95% of the time when you help someone with something as you've described they have no intention of ever returning the favor.
--- End quote ---
Well, I don't know what part of MA you live in (Chadville, maybe?), but my experience here has been quite the opposite. Over the years here I've had *dozens* of people offer to help me with various things, and not-a-one asked for anything in return. Recently, I've had people *we just met* offer to come over and help strip wallpaper in our new home!! That's, by far, not a fun thing to do...and they've asked for nothing in return. Anyone I've ever helped here has been more than happy to return the favor, as, for example, they've helped us move several times without complaining. (and we had a TON of ---Cleveland steamer---)
Anyhow, I just don't want people to think you speak for all of Massachusetts. Jeez.
ChadTower:
I've experienced this while living in Salem, North Andover, Plainville, and Amherst... so that's a pretty solid cross section of the state. People are very aloof here and there is little sense of community compared to other places I've lived.
polaris:
you should move to where mr c lives, next door maybe :)
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