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Sitting in the hospital right now
shardian:
Well, I don't exactly see it that way. I figure those people are just trying to lighten things up a bit. Me and Michelle weren't very sociable after Riley died. Michelle still isn't.
The "self-centered people", which we have several of in the family, say much worse things without even thinking of what they are saying.
Here's a sampling:
My brother-in-law:
"Maybe it's better that he died." in reference to the fact he may have had a handicap.
"Why is HIS picture on your desktop?" In reference to being jealous( that's the only reasoning that I cuold come up with) that our son's picture was on Grandma's computer and not his own children.
Michelle's Grandma:
"He died because you were too skinny" Boy that one made Michelle's day.
There have been more, but those stick out the worst.
ChadTower:
I'm not very sociable to begin with, so comments like those would at best result in my getting up and leaving without saying a word to that person for some time. At worst it could get ugly. I wouldn't even put comments like those into the "he's just self centered" category... they're over the line and offensive to me, even considering that they aren't intended that way.
I should note, though, that people say I am overprotective of my wife and kids. I see that as wrong the same way I see those people as underprotective of the only thing in their life that really matters.
saint:
Having kids is the best thing I've ever done in my life, I wouldn't trade one bit of it for anything in the world. 37 weeks is a good gestational age, I think you have nothing but good times ahead of you.
--- Quote from: shardian on January 23, 2007, 11:50:45 am ---Don't worry Chad, I understand. Hopefully she'll be healthy as a horse though.
The replies I usually don't like are the "Now you get to be miserable for the next 2 years" kind of replies. I know people are just trying to be friendly with things like this, but they just don't understand, and I am happy for them that they don't.
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shardian:
I don't talk to my brother-in-law any more. He knows he crossed the line and has tried to make up for it in his own self-centered way, but its too late for that in my book. He is only lucky that I am used to his ways, or things would have definitely became ugly.
Going thru a situation like that, you find out who truly cares about you, and who doesn't. We have cut off contact with alot of friends and family (my entire family included. Long story, the straw that broke the camels back kinda thing). We have also grown much closer to the friends and family who did care, and gained many friends who went out of their way to lend us a helping hand.
So, in a way it sucks to lose friends and family, but the return of knowing who you can count on when the chips are down I think will pay off in the long run.
mr.Curmudgeon:
--- Quote from: saint on January 03, 2007, 05:16:43 pm ---I believe this is the first time in history that this forum and hobby have been described in the same breath as keeping someone sane!
--- Quote from: shardian on January 03, 2007, 02:47:42 pm ---To sum up, the last year of my life has sucked horribly. To tell the truth, the arcade hobby and this forum are probably the only things that keep me sane.
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Well, he obviously has never visited P&R. 8)