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ChadTower:


--- Quote from: shardian on January 03, 2007, 02:47:42 pm ---Basically, my company is family friendly, but they still want me to get work done if possible. The problem is my head is just not there. It was the same way when I took off for Riley - I know where I need to be, but I always feel the pull to obligations, you know? It's like this little voice in your head that says, "they don't really mean take off the time. They really want you to get back in there and take one for the team". You never know right? That is the feeling I am talking about that eats at me and frustrates me to the point I can't relax. What I want more than anything is to cut loose from all my obligations and just be with my family with a clear mind.

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I know exactly what you mean.  When my wife was in her car accident a few years ago I was the same.  A 3 year old, a small baby, and a wife badly injured with multiple pelvic/vertebral fractures.  Relatives "trying to help" but only making it far, far more difficult by being unreliable and/or doing a hellaciously poor job when they volunteered for anything (e.g. "no, I don't know where the baby is").  The stress and exhaustion quickly overwhelms and the worst part of it is the complete impotence to do anything other than get up again tomorrow and repeat today.

When it comes to your job, it's all about your direct manager.  If he is a decent guy, he'll help you through the workplace situation.  If he's not, you could easily end up unemployed quickly.

Donkey_Kong:


--- Quote from: shardian on January 03, 2007, 02:47:42 pm ---
--- Quote from: ChadTower on January 03, 2007, 02:11:41 pm ---
I thought you said they were family friendly and would cut you enough slack...?  Do you have other kids to take care of while your wife is in the hospital?

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Well, I had this long post all written and then I realized it was a bit whiny. I feel better typing it all out, but now I'll present the revised edition

Basically, my company is family friendly, but they still want me to get work done if possible. The problem is my head is just not there. It was the same way when I took off for Riley - I know where I need to be, but I always feel the pull to obligations, you know? It's like this little voice in your head that says, "they don't really mean take off the time. They really want you to get back in there and take one for the team". You never know right? That is the feeling I am talking about that eats at me and frustrates me to the point I can't relax. What I want more than anything is to cut loose from all my obligations and just be with my family with a clear mind.

To sum up, the last year of my life has sucked horribly. To tell the truth, the arcade hobby and this forum are probably the only things that keep me sane.

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Obligations suck at a time like this. Take there word for it man...take the time off. Your family is more important and I'm sure they (management @ work) really do understand. If not, then they are jerks. Do what is best for you man. I know I would be one week s.o.b. in your situation. You're doing fine...either way hang in and be strong bro!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jason

ChadTower:


--- Quote from: Donkey_Kong on January 04, 2007, 10:11:52 am ---Take there word for it man...take the time off.

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That's easier said than done when the first of the month rolls around and the mortgage must be paid.

shardian:


--- Quote from: ChadTower on January 04, 2007, 09:33:58 am ---When it comes to your job, it's all about your direct manager.  If he is a decent guy, he'll help you through the workplace situation.  If he's not, you could easily end up unemployed quickly.

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My direct supervisor is awesome. He will be the design manager as soon as the current one retires in a year or two. Well, he unofficially is already to tell the truth.

Now for an update:

Michelle was released yesterday. I'm sure they'll readmit her again next week though, so I won't get too excited. The doctor that was there also discovered she tested positive for another blood clotting disorder that NOONE HAS EVER TOLD HER ABOUT! This is the reason I hate hospitals and doctors- there is always extremely poor communication on every front. She was apparently supposed to be taking alot of extra folic acid this whole time due to the new disorder, and she hasn't been. Needless to say, I am quite pissed off.

ChadTower:


--- Quote from: shardian on January 04, 2007, 11:08:05 am ---This is the reason I hate hospitals and doctors- there is always extremely poor communication on every front.

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Odd that they would have run the test without telling her about it up front.  That's probably why they didn't tell her about the result.  They can't tell you results from a test you didn't consent to taking.  In fact, if they did run it, and didn't tell her about it beforehand, in some situations they actually cannot tell her the results without fear of consequences from effing up and not notifying her that they were going to run it. 

The liability laws are so circuitous now that few hospital staffs understand them.  When you throw in the new HIPAA privacy laws, which were all thrown in place by the gov't with a "YOU WILL FOLLOW NOW OR PAY HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS IN FINES" thud, most hospital employees have no idea what they are and are not allowed to do with either treatment or patient information (both medical and personal).  This is the industry I work in and it's a big giant steaming heap of poorly (if at all) trained (as to how to manage patient information) people at every level.

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