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How do you do this to your kids?
RandyT:
Clearly, there will never be a consensus on the best way to handle poorly behaved kids. People are as different as snowflakes (sometimes without the snow part) and children are just little people. What works with one, may not have a chance in hell of working on another. The disturbing thing is that the ones who might need some physical "behavior modification" the most, are now not receiving it. And because of this, will likely have no respect for figures of authority (like police, teachers, their boss, etc., ) You know, all the people that supposedly are crucial for the running of a civilized society and those your child will depend on to be successful.
The answer of late is to jack these kids up on drugs to keep them under control, so we can add habitual drug use to the list of this person's adult problems.
Everything that happens to you as a child is training for what will happen to you as an adult. Instilling the values of absolute passivity into your child might make him a scholar and a gentleman. On the other hand it might make him "food" for those who are not.
Balance is the key.
RandyT
saint:
Heh. My kids are anything but passive. Purple belts in karate (the two older ones) and anything but shy about asking for what they want.
--- Quote from: RandyT on October 02, 2006, 01:40:01 pm ---
Everything that happens to you as a child is training for what will happen to you as an adult. Instilling the values of absolute passivity into your child might make him a scholar and a gentleman. On the other hand it might make him "food" for those who are not.
Balance is the key.
RandyT
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shardian:
When I was a kid, I got spankings for bad grades in school. They never had any effect on me - as in I still got bad grades. It was a worthwhile trade-off to get 6 weeks of no homework for 1 minute of butt whoopins. What my parents should have realized was that I was smart enough to realize grades don't mean ---steaming pile of meadow muffin--- until high school. I should have been rewarded for being so clever. ;D
Side note: Once I got into High school, I graduated with a 4.1 GPA. :laugh2:
Another funny butt whoopin story:
One time when I was either 5 or 6, I was told I was gonna get a butt spanking. I went to my room and put on a pair of sweat pants. I then put a book in there on my butt, along with the entire contents of one of my clothes drawers. I came out with a totally straight face, and said I was ready. After my dad nearly choked to death from a laughing fit, I got a bare butt spanking for my efforts. Geeze, you think he would have given me some credit for creativity.
Some children (as in my case also) will go out of their way to get spankings because it is the only form of attention they get from their parents. My Aunt beats and screams at her kids on a regular basis, but she ignores them other than to yell or hit.
Final assesment from my point of view, spankings do not work as a singular form of punishment, and they are not needed for parents who are actively involved in their childrens everyday lives.So, spankings do not work.
shmokes:
--- Quote from: shardian on October 02, 2006, 02:16:01 pm ---
So, spankings do not work.
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Before anyone jumps on this, I think what he really means is that spanking is unnecessary. I think that spanking can be effective in some cases. But, like Shardian, I think it's unecessary because better alternatives are available.
Ed_McCarron:
--- Quote from: shmokes on October 02, 2006, 03:46:58 pm ---I think it's unecessary because better alternatives are available.
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I'm open to suggestions. Since you obviously know everything there is to be said on the matter, would you care to enlighten us? How d'you handle your kids?