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| NightGod:
I'll agree that spanking shouldn't be the only form of discipline used on a child, but my experiences showed me that, at least at a certain age (say 2 1/2 to 5-6), it was a very effective one when other options had been exhausted. There's a certain age of child when reasoning just does not work-they don't have the mental faculties to participate fully in it. My personal experience has been that the people I personally know who have never spanked their child have more overall discipline problems than those who used spanking sparingly as a discipline tool. On the flip side, those who over-used spanking find themselves in the same position as those who didn't use it at all. I've never met a parent who said "Man, I regret those five times I spanked Billy when he was growing up" and I've met alot of parents who say they wish they had when the kids were young enough for it to have done some good. I've also met those who say that they are glad they didn't spank at all, though they are in the minority from my experience. I've also met alot of parents who say they wish they had spanked less, but those are the ones who tended to use it as the main tool, rather than as a final resort. If something else is working for you, then keep doing it, just sharing my experiences and, by proxy, the experiences of the parents I know personally. |
| ChadTower:
--- Quote from: shmokes on October 01, 2006, 10:11:49 pm --- One day, just after I turned fifteen, it occurred to me that I was physically stronger than my mom. That day she lost the only control she had ever developed over me. --- End quote --- Ha. I remember that. Probably 12 for me... my mother just whaling on me one day and me standing there not even moving. Changed the whole relationship. |
| AtomSmasher:
Just remember that sending them to prison to teach them a lesson is not a good idea: http://tvnz.co.nz/view/page/423466/821545 |
| ChadTower:
Well, clearly he didn't learn not to be mouthy. |
| Ed_McCarron:
--- Quote from: NightGod on October 01, 2006, 03:04:07 pm ---but it was an effective tool when they were too young to reason with. --- End quote --- Thats the key. Reasoning only works if the child is old enough to understand it. My 3 year old still has cause and effect issues - doesn't rationalize that running into the street will get him squished. So, he gets a quick swat on the behind when he does so. He can connect a sore bottom to running into the street. Pavlov would be proud. |
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