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ChadTower:


My brother made a similar picture in school in the late 80s.  He was probably 5-6 years old.  Mom with a giant metal spoon, him cowering.  The school did call us all in and we had all these tense meetings about it.  I was an early teen at the time.

J_K_M_A_N:

I went to a Catholic school. I got beat at home AND at school.  :dizzy:

My dad would often yell at us, but not things like that. I try not to do that to my son but I still catch myself doing it sometimes. I usually apologize later for yelling and we talk about it calmly and it works out pretty well. He is a good kid. Much better than I was.

It is kinda weird how you sometimes act just like your parents when you are really trying not to. It it like they are channeling through you. ---daisies---!

J_K_M_A_N

RandyT:

So....how many of you good folks who had some tough discipline and an occasional butt-tanning went to school and shot your principal and/or classmates?  (sorry, was that too intense for EE?)

But yeah, I hate screamers too.  My ex would do that with the kids.  It wasn't long before the message got lost in the volume and they just tuned her out.  Kids need boundaries today, but they are getting harder and harder to put in place.  About the only option a parent has is screaming it seems, and you see how well that works.

And no, I'm not advocating beating the snot out of your kid.  Just good parenting that might include an occasional display of who's really in charge of a situation. 


Drew, didn't your mom tell you not to let that little bully rile you up?  You're just playing into his evil little bird launchers  ;D


RandyT

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MYX:

I remember the 3 spankings that my dad gave me. Usually my mom would hand out the enforcement. If it was a situation of extreme seriousness...She pulled out the nuke and my dad would step in. It was the kind of thing that would make your innards turn to jelly to think about. Usually my dads hand (no paddle, or belt or switch, just a bare hand) would swell to about 14 times normal size. It was usually about 4 or 5 smacks on the butt. But, the pain would travel straight from the butt receptors all the way through the body. This was usually accompanied with a sonic boom as well. Lets just say, the fear of this kept my brother and I out of trouble... Well usually... Well, lets just say we learned how not to get caught.

The point is, I think there is a place in discipline for spankings. It used to be acceptable to get swats from the principal. (Something I know nothing about  ;) ). But there was a limit to what I would do or how I would act at school. I also knew that there was no room for disrespect to a teacher. This would result in the punishment at school and the a follow up at home. Today's kids know that the worst that will happen is that they will be SPOKEN to STRONGLY, but not yelled at at school and usually a yell at home. There are NO consequences to their actions. Unfortunately we are the generation of kids that when they were growing up said "I will never spank MY kids" and actually stuck to it.

I am sorry, but sometimes a kid will get so wrapped up in themselves that the only way to wake em up is a good swap on the butt. There is a good reason why God Padded the butt. You can spank it and it will hurt for a little while, but no damage is done.

A parrent should never hit a kid in anger. When I say hit I am referring to more than the swat on the rear. I am saying HIT  as to inflict damage. There is no parenting in breaking a kid. It does nothing but break their self esteem and their spirit and their heart. Chad, I think it is good that you didn't plow into that guy because you would be in jail, not the jacka$$ that did the REAL damage. But it might be a good idea to confront him with a LOT of other dads accompanying you. Perhaps an ultimatum...Do it again and all of us will be paying you a visit. Or give a call to child protective services.
How can hitting a kid in the eye be teaching a lesson. Ghaw.  :angry:

I am not the greatest dad. I do yell at times. Not like your friend over there Drew. I try to build my kids up, not tear them down. There is too many negitives already in the world, they do not need it from the one place that is supposed to be safe.

Sadly, though not true, that kid somehow is going to feel responsible if that lady does in fact end up dying.  >:(

shmokes:


--- Quote from: MYX on October 01, 2006, 02:06:37 pm ---
The point is, I think there is a place in discipline for spankings.


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I don't.

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