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My Mom's Estate----Attorney problems
Arcadiac:
Thanks Dag2000 and everyone else. I got the phone numbers for the county courthouse, I'm gonna make some calls tomorrow and find out what I can.
From the internet research I did today there should have been way more action in the last 18 months than there has been, check this out:
http://evans-legal.com/dan/easched.html
This should have been completely settled by now. And laws may well have been broken by not notifying us other heirs of the progress. More will be revealed, I'll post what I find out later tomorrow, gonna put off that letter until I see what has happened at the courthouse. A road trip may well be in order.
Thanks all, ARCADIAC!
Arcadiac:
OK I called the courthouse today and got some information, a lot more than what I had.
Last April the taxes filed claimed insolvency, supposedly she owed out $12,000 more than the estate was worth. However when I asked how much had actually been listed as claimed against the account, the total was only around $13,000. Leaving tens of thousands unaccounted for, at least in these documents at the register of wills. And the estate hasn't been closed as of yet.
Something fishy there no doubt.
So I'm getting a full copy of her file so I can look it over myself and have it in hand if I decide to consult a lawyer. Also got a number for legal help out of NW PA, so progress is being made, at least as much as I could get done this week. Gonna give it a rest for the weekend, at least now I know how to get started and get some results. I feel a bit more hopeful.
Thanks again for your help and support, it really helped me get motivated and keep moving. Any more ideas/suggestions, keep 'em coming.
ARCADIAC!
stevejt:
I am real glad you are finally getting some information. Don't give up. Once the estate is closed, it's almost impossible to change.
Steve
Arcadiac:
Hi y'all just a small update, today is the second anniversary of my Mom's death so I'm feeling it a lot, I'll try to be brief.
I got the paperwork yesterday from the Register of Wills. It appears that according to the tax form filed for last year that there really were more debts to the estate than assets. All were listed, with account numbers so I can only assume that they are legit. And all the proper steps were taken for my bro the buy the house, except we never received notice of the hearing to approve.
Now if I wanted to I could hire a lawyer to look into the fact that when my mom's house was sold, the estate's atty. didn't bother to send us heirs notice of the hearing, and a couple of other notices that were required.
But at this point, I wonder if any more of a battle towards resolving the estate is worth it, particularly since it apparently is insolvent. What good would come of it?
This has been a long emotional process for me and I gotta say when I read that tax form and the rest of the court paperwork and got a reality check I said "It's over. That's all."
And it feels over, like a bit of letting go has happened.
So maybe it's time to let it be.
For my peace of mind and spirit.
Hanging on to try to force someone else behave the way I think that they should behave never has gotten me anywhere.
So life goes on, my bro and sis will have to live with themselves for their greed and hatefulness, I got no desire to try to reconcile with them, too much pain and insanity going on there.
I've lost my Mom, brother and sister all at once and maybe it's just time for acceptance of the way things really are, not the way I'd like for them to be.
I got the things that were really important to me, family photos and some records that Mom used to listen to when I was young, of no monetary value to the greedos, so they didn't want them.
Lesson learned, you will die someday and no matter how much you might like to believe that your heirs would behave in a civilized manner, they probably won't, so MAKE A WILL.
So if I can get myself moving, I'm gonna get to the cemetary today, or at least this weekend and put out some flowers for Mom and Dad.
It helps to believe that somewhere, somehow they will know that someone remembers, honors and misses them.
Thanks to all who responded, your help and support is appreciated.
ARCADIAC!
Lilwolf:
Making a WILL is VERY important for more then one reason.
The main one in my mind is to keep family close. When its a free for all you find brothers and sisters not talking again ever. And you don't have the heads of the family dragging them back together once a year to have them get over stuff. So its just like they are gone forever.
But even then, you can still see fights. My step grandfather and his brothers ended up sueing each other over his mothers will. It got so nasty (over land) that one of the brothers rented the land to a strip miner who destroyed it litterally forever.
Too bad that the family got to the point where you couldn't just call up and ask.
One thing to remember. It wasn't your money or your brothers or your sisters... If you end up getting something its nice. But I believe that inheritences should be for the grandchildren to go out and do something fun and think of the grandparnets. By the time your direct parents pass... hopefully you should have your own financial situation set (in whateve way it is)... Otherwise you get people relying on inheratance to make it through their own retirement... And that doesn't really work out.
Good luck... .And call your brother and have a conversation with him NOT about the house and your mom... but about what hes doing. Then do the same for your sister. Hopefully one day this will be the norm..