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the story, of the worst time in my life
danny_galaga:
--- Quote from: Sephroth57 on February 09, 2005, 09:55:15 pm ---well i signed up at the gym today.. felt really good working out and stuff. i think im gonna start going 3 times a week, it took my mind off things..
and im not calling until she calls me..
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that's the spirit!!
pointdablame:
Ok, well I didn't read the ENTIRE post, but...
First off, I'm sorry. I just turned 21 yesterday, been with my gf for about 4 years now, and would not know what to do in your situation. At the very least, know that I am at a very similar part of my life, and agree it would be hard.
One thing though.... don't keep calling and talking to her. She wanted to break it off. She wanted space. She wants to "be friends." You'll only push her farther away. If it's meant to be, she'll come back. If not, you'll get over it... eventually. That idea must suck.. I know, but it IS true.
and PS (not directed at Seph) - there is NOTHING wrong with Jersey girls.. in fact... there are no comparisons. If you don't like them, it's cuz you can't handle them ;)
shmokes:
--- Quote from: Sephroth57 on February 09, 2005, 09:55:15 pm ---well i signed up at the gym today.. felt really good working out and stuff. i think im gonna start going 3 times a week, it took my mind off things..
and im not calling until she calls me..
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Oh yeah...be careful with that, too. I think we have a tendency, as humans, to interpret things how we want to interpret them. She WILL call you. Even if all the bad stuff that we're suggesting is true, this will sting for her as well. When she doesn't have other plans and she's bored and lonely, she'll call you. You might be tempted to think that she is having a change of heart, when in reality she might think about it the next day and be mad at herself for giving in. If that's the case she will probably give in less and less as time goes by. I would seriously prepare yourself for that possibility.
Most importantly, try to convince yourself (mainly because it's true) that this is likely a good thing. It doesn't just go for relationships. It goes for all kinds of fate stuff. I was working for a coffee shop and the owner up and closed shop, left town and stiffed me for more than $500. We were really good friends too. It was horrible. I was living paycheck to paycheck. Suddenly I was unemployed AND I wasn't even going to get the next check that was supposed to be coming in just a couple days. It was horrible. If it hadn't happened I would not have the job I have now, which I love, and get paid nearly triple what I made at the coffee shop.
What's that saying about "when god closes a door she opens a window....?" Oftentimes it's closer to, "When god closes a window she waits a couple months and then busts down the wall."
Anyway...yeah. The gym's a good idea. Confidence is important and anything like this is a major blow to the self-esteem. Nothing like getting nice and cut to bounce that back up.
Bones:
I read some of this stuff and I can
danny_galaga:
--- Quote from: BrokenBones1 on February 10, 2005, 02:59:54 am ---I just can't imagine getting hung up on a girl these days who was jerking me around. I just simply wouldn't tolerate any crap.
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its called being in love. does that too ya. thats why i dont fall in love anymore. my hearts been ripped out and jammed back in once too often. something got broke...