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the story, of the worst time in my life
Sephroth57:
--- Quote from: DrewKaree on February 13, 2005, 09:03:32 am ---Given enough time and seeing the roller coaster that would put any theme park to shame that this has/is/was becoming, I'm thinking you're glad this guy's not on regular anymore
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Grasshopper:
--- Quote from: Sephroth57 on February 13, 2005, 12:36:10 am ---well im not in the mood right now to type up all the information thats happened between my last large post and now.. but i think things are looking up a little bit. Once she saw i started doing my own thing, hitting the gym , being with friends goin out a little more, i took a lot of pressure off her and gave her time to think without feeling really guilty for making me miserable. Also I already had a girl at a party try to get me to come to her house when she was half drunk at 1am... so she knows that if she doesnt act pretty soon I have options.. (btw i turned down the chick)
lately there has been decent progress, i didnt call her for a full day and a half, a lot of the time she was busy with classes and stuff but there were times when shes usually in the room and i didnt call. so she finally called me and was like oh you didnt call, been busy lately? im like yeah kinda, yah know. so i think that kind of concerned her, not getting the daily call. lately shes been calling me the past couple days.
also, she initiated the hand holding today in the mall..
also, some other good stuff.. just like little things. and she pecked me on the lips today. first time she kissed me not on the cheek since this whole thing happened. and i looked at her suprised, and im like damn thats it? and she goes, we need to take baby steps, and smiled. and im like ok...
i dunno you guys are prolly gonna be like dont get excited blah blah. but im not taking this as like signs from god, but i just had a good day and im in a happy mood so. yeah...
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Sounds promising. Keep playing it cool.....
Grasshopper:
--- Quote from: Sephroth57 on February 13, 2005, 09:18:39 am ---
--- Quote from: DrewKaree on February 13, 2005, 09:03:32 am ---Given enough time and seeing the roller coaster that would put any theme park to shame that this has/is/was becoming, I'm thinking you're glad this guy's not on regular anymore ;D
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i read that about 3 times.. and i still dont get what youre takling about lol
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Lol. I gave up trying to decipher Drew's posts a long time ago. :D
Silver:
Hope things are looking up for you, assuming its what you and her want....
Reading this thread reminded me of times when I split up with my current gf (we got back together after a long break). The situation was different to yours, but I remember feeling absolutely crap for a while.
One thing that did happen was that I realised I had been - at times - bending over backwards to suit her - and I ended up resenting her for it. While we were split up, I got on with a bunch of other stuff in my life - other friends, other hobbies, spending time doing stuff I wanted to do. When we started getting back together I realised I did not want to stop doing a lot of this stuff, so just kinda said so. Completely upfront - "I've been enjoying this two nights a week or whatever, I wanna keep doing it - how do you feel about that?"
Anyway, worked out really well. Feel my life is much more balanced now.
If you've enjoyed going down the gym or doing some more stuff than you used to, then try and keep on it no matter what happens with this girl.
Hey - maybe she even likes you going down the gym... ;)
I'm not saying be all "I am doing this, you gotta lump it" - but try and work with her on it.
Oh and save some cash and go travelling. Ask her if she fancies joining you. But go see some other countries anyway. Its a LOT easier when you're young. This I strongly recommend whatever happens.
Sephroth57:
yeah actually ive been wanting to go to japan for a really long time... weve talked about going together before but spending like 2-3K each isnt in either of our budgets right now.
her cousin that were both good friends with is going down to florida for like 5 days right after easter, we were thinking about going with them if things are more "normal" by then. i think a vacation together would be awesome, but not until shes comfortable with it