Happy to finally close the loop on this thread. I really, REALLY thought I had screwed the pooch in a big way - I mean even more than I had at the start of this thread. After hooking everything up again after doing some debugging it turns out I hadn't inserted the anode cap securely enough. It started spewing high voltages all over the place, real real bad news. But seemingly not fatal, after I discharged everything and reseated the anode cap (after about a week of grieving lol).
So all of that is besides the point, it just explains the delay. To the original issue:
* None of the service menu adjustments I made changed the dim lines. Interestingly, even turning off the red channel didn't affect those lines.
* An incredibly simple fix that I should have tried immediately (at least I got around to it). I simply turned down the overall DC offset? bias? G2 voltage? Not sure the correct term, at the flyback. Honestly this issue may have totally been there before anything I mentioned in the OP, and I simply bumped the G2 voltage during some of the dis/reassembly. Those dim lines receded away and I didn't lose any brightness that I couldn't bring back in the main menu.
As for triggering the TV power cleanly, here's where I ended up:
* I 3d printed some rails to mount the TV's main PCB cleanly with lots more support
* took those extended leads out to the front panel's standby switch and instead of risking messing around with the main switch, I pulled this out to be a nice chonky button that's still inside the cabinet but just relocated to be convenient. Not the primary means of toggling the power.
* dug up an Arduino Pro Micro and some IR LEDs and receivers I had lying around, used it to record the most common button presses from the Sony remote. Using the awesome
IRemote library* desoldered the IR receiver from the Sony's main board and extended its leads too, mounting it inside the cab
* wrote an arduino sketch that listens on USB for serial commands and translates them into the desired IR blasts (e.g. w a s d for up left down right, m for menu, ! for power and so on)
* wrote some python code that takes an argument and sends that command to the arduino over serial. So you have like `sonyir m` → serial → arduino → IR blaster → IR receiver on TV
* wrote another python script that 1. fires off power toggle 2. idles forever 3. registers a handle for SIGINT that fires off the power toggle again
* installed the python script as a Windows service with
nssm, which cleanly shuts down the service on shutdown, instead of killing it berofe the signal could send out like other approaches I tried
So far so good! I can post the code if there's any interest but I'm sure it's all been done a hundred different ways. (Where's the fun if I don't solve the problem my own way though)