I found a pretty decent way to handle it I think. If anyone ever runs into this issue. I don't know if anyone else has a wheel they're unplugging but you never know.
Download USB Deview:
https://downloads.tomsguide.com/USBDeview,0301-13254.htmlSelect all controller usb devices and disable them. For me it's
Xbox 360 Wireless Receiver for Windows Xbox 360 Wireless Receiver for Windows Vendor Specific Yes Yes No No FF422EB0 6/4/2020 8:35:45 PM 5/9/2020 1:06:32 PM 045e 0719 1.00 ff 5d 81 DESKTOP-3PL9AVA 8&22ce2950&0 xusb22 @xusb22.inf,%XUSB22.ServiceName%;Xbox 360 Wireless Receiver Driver Service 22 xusb22.sys Microsoft 260 mA 2.00 Xbox 360 Wireless Receiver for Windows 10.0.18362.1 CC_Install xusb22.inf Removable, UniqueID, SurpriseRemovalOK
XBOX_360_DEVICE_01:03 USB Input Device HID (Human Interface Device) Yes Yes No No 6/4/2020 8:38:12 PM 6/4/2020 8:38:12 PM 0f0d 0719 0.00 03 00 00 DESKTOP-3PL9AVA 9&2815744b&0 HidUsb @input.inf,%HID.SvcDesc%;Microsoft HID Class Driver hidusb.sys (Standard system devices) USB Input Device 10.0.18362.175 HID_Inst.NT input.inf SurpriseRemovalOK
XBOX_360_DEVICE_00:00 USB Input Device HID (Human Interface Device) Yes Yes No No 6/4/2020 8:39:34 PM 6/4/2020 8:39:34 PM 24c6 5b00 0.00 03 00 00 DESKTOP-3PL9AVA 7&3766c46f&0 HidUsb @input.inf,%HID.SvcDesc%;Microsoft HID Class Driver hidusb.sys (Standard system devices) USB Input Device 10.0.18362.175 HID_Inst.NT input.inf SurpriseRemovalOK
-Unplug the wheel, use it on 360 or whereever. It's not like I'll need those other controllers while I'm using my wheel on 360.
-Replug the wheel
-Re-enable all devices. The wheel will be first, the other devices will follow.
It works with command line too so I'm going to whip up some Autohotkey scripts where i can disable and enable those other devices with a keyboard command. If anyone ever needs to disable any usb devices and reenable them for any reason and want to use command line here's how
http://www.nirsoft.net/articles/disable_enable_usb_device_command_line.html#:~:text=USBDeview%20is%20a%20freeware%20tool,from%20command%2Dline%20and%20GUI.