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| Firepro4Life:
Sorry to hear about your situation. Having had anxiety my whole life, I know how difficult it can be when it goes into overdrive as life really hits you with a lot at once. I found that what works best for me is to focus on simplifying my life and reducing unnecessary responsibilities and stressors (I know, easier said than done). Sleep, diet and exercise is also critical. Ditch caffeine if you can survive without it. Time outdoors in nature also helps me a lot when I can find the time. One of the previous posters is correct, the best you can do is keep it within a tolerable range but will have to deal with it for life. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Pro |
| Howard_Casto:
--- Quote from: pixel on April 08, 2017, 12:45:11 am --- --- Quote from: Howard_Casto on April 07, 2017, 09:32:44 pm ---Don't worry about worrying so much. Ever seen a squirrel? Ever wonder how something that puny survives in this world? Pay closer attention.... that poor thing is nervous as hell and this is what keeps it alive. Anxiety is natural and healthy, it's a defense mechanism. Just remember that you are in control of it and not the other way around. Make it work for you. --- End quote --- Sorry, but that is a poor assessment / assumption, which has no basis of evidence. In fact, its quite the opposite. A Squirrels motion is not indicative of its internal mental / emotional state. The reason why Squirrel moves quickly, because its light as a feather. It has a body that is based on quick-twitch muscle fibers.. rather than of high-strength.. but slower.. fibers. The same is true of smaller birds. Where as some of the larger birds, move a bit more graduated / smooth. (It might also have a faster heart beat, as well as a very efficient brain to response ratio... where as humans, may have a more delayed visual data to brain translation process) You can see the same thing, when you compare the speed and acceleration of other smaller / larger animals. A small house cat.. is far more twitchy / fast.. than a Large lion, tiger..etc. Its not typically natural to us.. but with intense and specialized training.. we can develop lightning fast-twitch movements / responses. We will never be as quick as a lightweight squirrel, but, we can achieve some blindingly fast kicks, punches, grabs, slight-of-hand, and wicked dance moves... ;) --- End quote --- No you are wrong, but this isn't the best place for such arguments. I just used a squirrel as a random example, but there are plenty of papers on the animal kingdom and their heightened fight or flight response (aka stress). I suggest you read them. You somehow think I meant speed when in fact I meant the amount of times a squirrel rapidly scans it's surroundings, ect. Next time perhaps you should be the one that makes sure they know what they are talking about. |
| pbj:
Get your testosterone checked. (all of you) :cheers: |
| dkersten:
Thanks guys! Last night I took a half of an ativan and kicked back to watch a movie. Yesterday was by far the worst day of this since it started a little over a month back. I was quite relaxed last night and started feeling much better, although the heart palpitations were still coming on once in a while. This morning I woke up feeling great, no heart stuff going on, no anxiety at all. And after I ate some breakfast and sat down to do some work, it all came back, lol. Thankfully there is no depression, and I intend to keep it that way. I went through a complete chemical imbalance several years ago and I have a pretty good idea of what to look for there. I am far from depressed, and if anything, I am manic right now, which could be just as bad. A LOT of things are happening in my life, and a big part of it will culminate on Monday, which will hopefully ease some of this stress. Almost none of my co-workers know what is going on, and it sucks knowing that their lives will be changed on Monday, quite possibly for the worse. I can't say anything, and that part really sucks. But mostly there is a ton of really good stuff coming up, and while there is a little anxiety that it will all fall apart before it happens, even the worst case scenario isn't going to horrible, just a lot of change. I do fear heart problems. My mom had her first angioplasty at 48 and her first open heart at 50. I am 45. Her dad died of a heart attack at 50. My father ended up with open heart surgery later in life as well, so I am getting hit from both sides of the family on the heart problems. BUT, I don't smoke, seldom drink, don't do drugs, and my cholesterol is under control (due in part to a horse pill I take every day, but it is under control). I had a stress test a year ago and it was fine, and that is a very predictive test for blockage, so I am not worried about blockage. But there is always that fear. My mother has had 2 open hearts, had a pacemaker put in recently, and has had several other procedures over the years. It is a miracle she is still with us, and is doing very well. Regarding Howard's comments, the problem with being in a nervous state for too long is it changes your chemistry and can be hard to reverse. Once the source of this current anxiety is gone, I don't want the side effects to stick around. Like I said, I had an issue about 5 years back where some foundations in my life collapsed and I had a complete emotional break. It took over a year to feel "normal" again, and in the process I lost nearly 50 lbs. There are parts of my life that are still affected by that period, and I have felt more or less "normal" for nearly 4 years. I have dealt with far more stress than this over the years, but I don't want my current physiological reaction to become "the norm". This kind of anxiety is not a normal state for me, and I refuse to get used to it and just deal with having it in my life. I will find the stability I need in my life, sooner or later. I did do counseling back when I was having depression and going through all that really bad stuff. I also tried journaling, and it helped because I had used my friends to talk things out so much that I knew they were sick of hearing it. Funny thing was, I tried to channel that pent up emotion into writing but it didn't work. I wrote my first novel before this happened, and it ended up taking me five years to edit and publish. That period of time was more about the inability to write than being too busy. I know some authors can channel all the bad stuff in their lives into some really good writing. I am not one of them. Anyway, thanks for the feedback everyone. I appreciate it all, particularly given that most of my anxiety is caused by "first world problems"... On the surface it feels kind of petty to be stressing about my life when I have been so fortunate in life. I guess all I can say about that is it doesn't matter how lucky you are in life, how successful, or how much better you might have it then your neighbor, you can still be knocked on your ass by something you didn't expect, just like anyone else. The crazy thing is I still don't feel like I am anywhere near my limit for what I can deal with in my life right now, but I do think it is taking a toll. There is a clock ticking away on how much longer I will be in my home (a home that I have spent 17 years customizing to fit my life), and while on paper I am figuring out my next moves, I think my subconscious is having a hard time with the idea that I won't live here soon. I won't really know my new job for a few more weeks, or if all the benefits I will lose will be compensated for or not. Despite all that (and a lot more), I feel like I could take on a lot more. It seems my heart is not agreeing with me though, lol. |
| dkersten:
--- Quote from: pbj on April 08, 2017, 11:41:05 am ---Get your testosterone checked. --- End quote --- Is this your way of saying "Man up, snowflake." ? :cheers: |
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