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Frank Drebin:

--- Quote from: johnrt on November 06, 2015, 10:38:37 am ---
--- Quote from: Frank Drebin on November 06, 2015, 10:25:11 am ---just like she wouldn't buy new furniture to match the drapes without running it past me.

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Really??? You care about the furnitures matching the drapes?? :laugh2: :lol

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I care about a lot of stuff in the house, but that really wasn't the point. Major changes, major purchases, we run them past each other.

tomstewdevine:

--- Quote from: Token on November 05, 2015, 03:14:04 pm ---
--- Quote from: yotsuya on November 05, 2015, 02:45:45 pm ---Scenario #1 -

You want to buy a $200 Space Zap cabinet. Your wife (not girlfriend, wife - your legal spouse) thinks you just don't have enough room for one since you already have a 4 player 4 foot wide video game playin' machine in the living room. Money is not an issue, since you collected $200 selling empty soda cans. What do you do?

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If I put a 4 foot wide cabinet in my living room then I have already established a lack of judgement. The wife will probably leave me for a KLOVer.

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Nailed it.

jennifer:

--- Quote from: ChanceKJ on November 05, 2015, 03:49:14 am ---I guess, Here's my point: a lot of the people who I see in healthy relationships have a mutual understanding about what makes the other happy. And then don't feel guilt when they consider buying something that they like.

Married or not, I've had my fair share of relationships, and I'm no expert, but I do know this: I would personaly not chose to be with someone who made me feel guilt, or made me feel implied guilt for buying something I knew I could afford (time/space/money wise) that makes me happy.

Recently in the last year I've bought 6 new arcade cabinets, not once did I get hastled for them, the money I spent, not the time I've spent on them. That includes 3 out of province trips, and even one failed attempt to freight a cab from Texas to Alberta (buyer backed out). She knows this makes me happy, and will continue to support me by listening to my rants on car trips, asking questions, and playing the odd game of Mario Bros along side me.

My question is: why? Why deal with the guilt of not being happy? If you have the space, the bills have been paid, and you have a chance to add to your arcade collection, why shouldn't you?

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That's subjective friend... Firstly "out of province trips"? (**Jennifer chuckles with amusment) And #2) Collecting is just that, a collection, Without purpose could be considered a liability, financially, dangerous living conditions, and disposal in the event of death.

Vigo:
Just to play this to the other end of the field - Does the "It makes me happy" line really mean ---steaming pile of meadow muffin---? Is a spouse only being selfish and self serving by squelching a plan that would make their husband happy? What if the said hobby was gambling, going to strip joints, mutilating small animals with a hack saw?

And I only bring it up because I have known a few people that let their hobbies consume them. Amassing piles a ---steaming pile of meadow muffin--- that sits around on the concept that "it makes them happy".

In one case I had words with the spouse (husband) and told him to grow a pair and take a ---steaming pile of meadow muffin--- on the excuse of "It makes me happy" (Wife). Screw that. Some people need their antics reeled in by their spouse, big time. And if they are so self centered that they view it as their spouse trying to take away their happiness and be controlling, then they are damn lucky they had a spouse to begin with, because those people didn't understand the concept of a mutual relationship to begin with.

Yes, I am painting with a wide brush here, but I am making a point that there are good reasons why a spouse might not approve.

monkeybomb:

--- Quote from: Vigo on November 06, 2015, 12:10:23 pm ---Yes, I am painting with a wide brush here, but I am making a point that there are good reasons why a spouse might not approve.
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For where this conversation has gone, I really think Vigo nailed it.

But I think if we go back to the generaic exuse of "the wife said no," then it's most likely something more that should not be blamed on the wife. Perhaps the real complaint should be, "I didn't make life choices that have given me enough money to do this where I live." Or, "I aleady have too much crap and my kind wife who puts up with me simply can't deal with adding an arcade cabinet." But, if it's truly an issue of a wife not letting a guy get a cabinet, even when there is enough money and the house has a little extra space, then maybe there is an issue of guys getting walked all over and they need to grow a pair.

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