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CheffoJeffo:

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--- Quote from: CheffoJeffo on November 05, 2015, 02:47:57 pm ---I will say that it's nice that nobody calls me "crybaby turd tosser egotistical self righteous miserable coward stink hole" anymore. ;D

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The day aint over yet >:D

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Token:

--- Quote from: Aceldamor on November 05, 2015, 03:17:40 pm ---WTF is a Basement? we don't have ---steaming pile of meadow muffin--- like these "basements" you keep talking about on the WEST SIDE!!!!!!!!!

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As a child growing up in the West, I envied the basements and stand-up floored attics I saw on TV.

Grew up.

Moved East.

Bought a house with a basement and stand-up floored attic. Exceeded expectations. Kid me knew what was up.

RandyT:
Just do what's right to keep your relationship in good working order. But keep in mind that females can smell fear, and that many of them don't consider it to be an attractive trait in a male. :)

But in the interest of full disclosure, I have it pretty good. My Lisa has assembled and soldered virtually every interface and has lovingly QC'd and packed every order we've had for over a decade. Every part in every box is her "baby". Before that, she enjoyed hitting garage sales and flea markets with me to hunt for classic video game systems, and didn't blink an eye when I pulled the old Defender cabinet from the basement and plopped it into, what was at the time of the early days of MAME, our <200 sqft living room. There's a lot more related stuff she has (and continues to) put up with, but I won't bore you.

So, at the onset, try make sure you really know and accept them, and that they really know and accept you. If it works out, you'll be dealing with each other's idiosyncrasies for a long time. You get just one chance at life. Do what you can to make sure you aren't miserable the whole time.

DietCoke:
I have always wanted to build an arcade cabinet, but only if it had what I considered to be the best components and what *I* wanted, not what was necessarily a traditional cabinet. Based on that it was clear that I was going to be spending some significant funds. I don't tend to "spoil" myself or buy a lot of things for myself, so the odds of that idea ever getting off the ground were pretty slim. It isn't a case of not being able to pay for it regardless, but as I've lived through poverty in the past I'm just not extravagant.

I asked my wife what she wanted for our ten-year anniversary. She replied that she wanted a bigger rock on her finger. Was it what I wanted to hear? Not particularly. But I accepted that it was something that she wanted, told her to pick one that she would always be happy with, and she was appreciative and more importantly - it made her happy.

I can't claim to understand the importance that had to her, conversely she cannot claim to understand the importance that the cabinet has to me. But it really doesn't matter... they make us happy individually, and thus together.

At the time I didn't know what I wanted to commemorate our anniversary, but after a few weeks I decided that I would like to build the cabinet. She didn't hesitate when I told her that I wanted to build the cabinet, nor did she when I gave her a general cost. I am sure that she would have said yes even if it wasn't our anniversary, or if I hadn't put a bigger rock on the finger. But that's what it took for me to give MYSELF permission to build it. Did I ask her if it was ok? You bet - but that approach goes both ways, and is very much the reason why *knock on wood* we had an anniversary to celebrate in the first place.

Full disclosure, though: I did not look at our bank account statements for several months to avoid the anxiety :)

ChanceKJ:
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