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| yotsuya:
--- Quote from: DeLuSioNal29 on July 27, 2015, 10:11:28 pm ---Been busy moving and getting the new Game Room foundation up to par. - Painted the walls and installed new industrial type carpets with the thickest moisture barrier they had. - Bought a new dehumidifier (a heavy duty one) that works AMAZINGLY well. It keeps the basement bone dry. - Bought a 50" flat screen plasma for $75 on Craigslist. Works perfectly (I was looking for plasma for movies) Still to do: - Mount TV - Change all outlets to white color. - I may need to upgrade power lines (I will see how it goes for now with my current machines). - Buy and install surround sound system - Collect more machines. D --- End quote --- How many machines, D? I had to upgrade mine because it was tripping the circuit breaker if I turned everything on. |
| eds1275:
Well, this is SORT OF a good thing. More like the worst thing ever is starting to come around. 2 months ago my wife rolled over in bed and said "I don't love you anymore, and it's over." WTF So she suggests I move out, and lets it be clear that there's nothing I can do in the world to save our marriage. I stood my ground and said if she needs space, she is welcome to go find it elsewhere. As far as I was concerned, we've had a very good marriage. Our lives are great. We do a lot of stuff together, maybe too much. Long story short, last November she started having a bout of depression, something she has been struggling with since her early teen years. Not any real reason for it - just the feeling of helplessness and impending doom, but nothing actually wrong. This is the first time she ever went on anti depressant medication, and at first it was working miracles. But ever since february things have been going down a dark path. Nothing really changed, except I moved to the next bedroom over. She still wanted to hang out and do stuff together - I never tried to exclude her from things, but I did make a decision to not intentionally include her either. If she wanted space, that was as far as I was going out of my way to give it to her. Today I got her help in cleaning up the main areas of our home to perfection. And then I got out my camera and started snapping pics. It was a risky bluff, but I said they were real estate pictures now that it's over, that was the only thing left to do. She suggests going to her doctor, and having her medications reassessed. Also perhaps counselling for her, and counselling for me to further understand her depression. It's not ideal, but given the hell my life has been for the past two months I am glad. We sat close on the couch and played lego batman 3. Feels like the first steps back to normal. |
| Mike A:
--- Quote from: eds1275 on July 28, 2015, 02:57:03 am ---Well, this is SORT OF a good thing. More like the worst thing ever is starting to come around. 2 months ago my wife rolled over in bed and said "I don't love you anymore, and it's over." --- End quote --- This is my first post and I have never posted in a forum before. Your post compelled me to start. My wife battled depression and medication addiction for many years. It was a nightmare at times. I knew she loved me even when it seemed like she did not. She fought like hell against her demons. In the last few years things were great. She emerged from her depression and our marriage and our love grew stronger. There were still normal ups and downs, but she handled them well with the skills she learned from a great therapist. My wife died from a heart attack in her sleep on January 3rd. She was 36 years old. It was due to a previously undiagnosed heart defect. Her past medication addiction contributed to her weakened heart. I meant to post this to encourage you that things can get better. I guess it sounds depressing now that I am reading it back. My wife and I lived in a nightmare, but with help, support, and the right medications for her, we pulled through it. I hope and pray that things will get better for you. It is important that you take care of yourself. I nearly got lost in my wife's problems and I started to feel sorry for myself. I was no good to her in that state. I just made a decision that I was going to be the best person I could be and that helped both of us. |
| Le Chuck:
Eds, that ---smurfing--- sucks brother. I'm so sorry you're experiencing that and I honestly can't relate to how painful that must be. Its not any of our business and I don't expect answers but is it actually a sea change in her heart or is it more along the lines of pushing you away because she is internally miserable and doesn't want to ruin your life by proxy because she really does love you? I only say that because I think you're awesome and I hope you can salvage your marriage, as I'm sure you do too, and that would be something that counseling could help to remedy. You have all my best wishes and hopes - and your wife does as well. Oh and Lego batman is great but nothing stands up to Lego Star Wars. |
| eds1275:
--- Quote from: Le Chuck on July 28, 2015, 08:00:11 am ---Oh and Lego batman is great but nothing stands up to Lego Star Wars. --- End quote --- Yeah I find those games are getting further from their roots. I enjoyed the first few. Harry Potter was the worst. But we play them all. I think things will be back to normal in the next few months. This is the first big deal in our 13 year relationship. I think she just can't handle problems, and little things eat her alive inside and she doesn't know what to do and perhaps the easiest thing might seem like nuking everything in her life and starting over? The good thing is that despite much temptation, I kept it in my pants. |
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