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| Zakk:
--- Quote from: HanoiBoi on June 13, 2015, 12:29:48 pm ---Okay, I think I found a disonnect. Zakk, you thought you were being compassionate, but it must not have come across that way to Xiaou because his actual response was "Insensitive, uncompassionate, worthless drivel.". See, he didnt see it as compassionate. To add to that, his comment was a reply to only a portion of what you wrote. And that portion offered no advice other than "change everything you're doing because you're doing it all wrong". And I'll be honest, I thought that was pretty harsh when I first read it too. If your true intent was compassion, no need to give up on that now. Dude's having some problems. --- End quote --- Heh, tell you what, save your advice for him, I don't plan to change a thing. I am being quite serious when I say "change everything", because for literally years now, things have decidedly not going the dude's way. If you have a different take on it (like keep telling him it's not his fault, and everyone needs to feel bad for him), then great, go with that. I don't think it does anything except prolong the pain. But anyway, our methods of compassion are evidently quite different. So...cheers. |
| leapinlew:
--- Quote from: HanoiBoi on June 13, 2015, 12:29:48 pm ---Okay, I think I found a disonnect. Zakk, you thought you were being compassionate, but it must not have come across that way to Xiaou because his actual response was "Insensitive, uncompassionate, worthless drivel.". See, he didnt see it as compassionate. To add to that, his comment was a reply to only a portion of what you wrote. And that portion offered no advice other than "change everything you're doing because you're doing it all wrong". And I'll be honest, I thought that was pretty harsh when I first read it too. If your true intent was compassion, no need to give up on that now. Dude's having some problems. --- Quote from: Zakk on June 13, 2015, 10:05:50 am --- --- Quote from: HanoiBoi on June 13, 2015, 07:26:25 am ---Hot Gravel sounds like a rock band. A middle school rock band. A middle school rock band that disbanded after their bass player lost an arm in a horrific moped accident. But seriously guys..joking's fun but let's have some compassion. Xiaou spilled some stuff...his stuff..and opened up about some traumatizing occurrences. Whether others handle it differently is beside the point - he was/is clearly affected. It couldn't hurt to show more compassion here. --- End quote --- Actually, I tried some compassion, and even some helpful tips, but he responded with "useless self serving drivel!!!" or something like that, so kind of hard to take ---steaming pile of meadow muffin--- seriously after that. So no, I think my compassion is about done. Now I just want to add useless self serving drivel. --- End quote --- --- End quote --- Sorry dude, but trying to help by offering advice shows compassion. When I have a problem, and I talk about it to others and they offer me advice that is totally off the mark - I don't lash out at them for trying to help. |
| dkersten:
It is never easy to hear advice that requires admitting one's failings, particularly when you are down already. But there are usually only two kinds of people who will still give you that kind of advice - the best kind of friends and anonymous people on the internet who don't have to see the pain in your eyes when you read something like that. Frankly I am a better person because of both types of people, and I have told both types to go piss up a rope when they laid that kind of advice down. The good friends are still good friends though because they get it, and the internet people are still there because they know they were right. Whether self serving or truly compassionate, the advice is sound and X2 opened himself to receiving that kind of advice by posting his story on the internet. |
| mr.Curmudgeon:
--- Quote from: Zakk on June 12, 2015, 12:10:48 am ---I'm actually a very happy person all around. --- End quote --- You seem to say this a lot. Not sure who you're trying to convince. Us or yourself? Because, to me, you usually come off as extremely bitter. Maybe you just need more guns? :P |
| Zakk:
--- Quote from: mr.Curmudgeon on June 15, 2015, 11:11:52 am --- --- Quote from: Zakk on June 12, 2015, 12:10:48 am ---I'm actually a very happy person all around. --- End quote --- You seem to say this a lot. Not sure who you're trying to convince. Us or yourself? Because, to me, you usually come off as extremely bitter. Maybe you just need more guns? :P --- End quote --- I come off that way to liberals who think the world owes them something... Plus, I have (almost) enough guns, which definitely adds to my merriment. Not saying there isn't room for a lot more, but almost enough. Okay, for you I'll get more guns. I'm smiling ear to ear now. |
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