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Chevron:
thanks for that.

the reason im concerned is that i don't want them to be sore losers out in the real world.
This is just a baby step to more grand things, a life lesson if you will, to better prepare them for not giving up or crying if at first you don't succeed.

I like to try include these in fun games were it doesn't actually feel like a lesson or lecture but they naturally pick up on it.
BadMouth:
I don't agree with much of my sister's parenting.  I live 3 hours away.  Everyone there lets my nephew win, and pretends they don't see him cheat.
I think that is especially bad.  This past thanksgiving I had him cornered at checkers and he moved my pieces as soon as I looked away.

The kid now refuses to do anything that he can't easily do/win.  He refuses to ride a bike because he couldn't do it without training wheels the first time and gave up.  Now he's old enough that the training wheels are an embarassment, so he just doesn't ride bikes. 
:angry:

He loves the 3/4 scale arcade machine I built him because it doesn't save high scores.
He gets the high score every time he restarts the game.   ::)


lordnacho:
One of the many tough lessons for parents.  I think it's ok for them to be upset with a loss, that shows a competitive spirit.  And we should praise them on a win.  Nothing like seeing my kids smile when they know they did something to make me proud. 
It's the extremes that I worry about, rubbing it in people's faces or crying.  I think just confronting these when they happen is all we can do.  Which sounds like you are doing that.
yotsuya:

--- Quote from: jammin0 on November 27, 2012, 09:24:52 am ---I think this is pretty common.  I have noticed that with my oldest son, he didn't always get the most realistic experience when playing games.  I would always let him win, my wife would always let him win, grandma and grandpa and aunts and uncles always let him win and I think he had a false inflated sense of self-esteem.  My twin daughters have had a much easier time since they have each other to occasionally lose out to, not to mention an older brother.  I think I've been better about modeling how to lose and they are way more laid back.

The fact that you're concerned about it and trying things probably means they will soon come around.

--- End quote ---

Funny you say that. I was the opposite. My wife would get mad at me when I would play games with our kids because I never let them win. I reminded her that in life no one just lets you win, and that when they did win, it would be that much sweeter for them because they knew it was legitimate.
ChadTower:

Obviously the problem is that they never got their "Second Best Trier" ribbon when the game ended.
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