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Chevron:
So i have built my first arcade machine 1/2 sized cab/bartop.
I have 2 girls 4 and 6 years old and im introducing them to the wonderful world of arcade games.
They have there DS's but i want them to learn and enjoy arcade games.

They have been playing Simpsons and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle and love the co-op aspect.
They also love pacman and frogger single player games
and they enjoy fighting games like bloody roar because they can change into animals and samurai showdown
but when they lose against each other they go off in a screaming fit and what to change the game

so the question to the parents of Arcade Controls is.
What is your best way to to teach the fundamentals of being a gracious loser and trying again.

edekoning:
From my experience it differs greatly between kids how they react to loosing. The kids who think that everything revolves around them are usually bad losers. I do notice that the fastest way to kill their interest is to consecutively beat them and be verbal about about it. Letting them win or loose, but just barely, keeps them interested much longer. When there are kids playing against each other I usually let the winner play me and lose or let the loser play me and win. Whatever happens just don't make winning/losing a big deal. It also helps to let each kid pick a different game after x games or after someone has a winning/losing streak. That said there are kids that will never take loosing gracefully. My 6 year old son being one of them, but only with board games, not video games. For these kids I tend to step in and tell them to play nicely or go play alone with something else. I then continue to play with whoever still wants to play. After a few min the other kid will most likely have cooled down and wants to continue gaming. Tell them they can but only if they 'behave'. If not I will never let that one kid spoil it for the rest!
Chevron:
i try not make winning or losing a big deal, i always say well your up next to play again or you have more lives its ok.
they do end up finding a game with a character that they just cant be beaten with and get on a roll with, this does help but then they don't like it when it doesn't happen in every game.

I guess il just keep doing what im doing as it appears to be the same style as you.

Id like to hear more peoples thoughts on this.
Dervacumen:
I tried several head to head games until I found one that my daughter could beat me at by button mashing - then we played it several times and I legitimately lost.  By not making a big deal out of it, she learned how to lose gracefully.  Many kids learn by example (not all -I know a few of those, too).  Same thing with my niece.  She's only been beaten twice on Wii Sports boxing.  Nobody can beat her and nobody knows why.  She just flails about in perfect timing with the game animations I guess. 
jammin0:
I think this is pretty common.  I have noticed that with my oldest son, he didn't always get the most realistic experience when playing games.  I would always let him win, my wife would always let him win, grandma and grandpa and aunts and uncles always let him win and I think he had a false inflated sense of self-esteem.  My twin daughters have had a much easier time since they have each other to occasionally lose out to, not to mention an older brother.  I think I've been better about modeling how to lose and they are way more laid back.

The fact that you're concerned about it and trying things probably means they will soon come around.
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