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lilshawn:


--- Quote from: DaOld Man on November 21, 2012, 04:31:17 pm --- But I can assure you that with time each day gets a little better, but you will never forget your loved ones.
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hear, hear.  :cheers:

lcmgadgets:

DaOld Man, I have been dry eyed for a couple of weeks now, until today, when I read your post. I am so sorry for your loss, both of your brother & your mother. I know some people will say 13 years ago is a long time, but u know different, don't u? I'm still grieving the loss of my parents (2 & 9? 8? years ago). My wife lost her mother (very tragically, as a chaplin she could say it was the worst of the thousands of deaths she'd witnessed--& not just bcause it was HER mother) 6? years ago, & she never recovered from it (it ruined her as a chaplin). She would tell us that every1 grieves differently, at different 'speeds', & in different ways, & that no one has the wisdom or right to tell u how or for how long u should grieve.

I still have my 3 siblings. Sometimes I start imagine losing 1 (fortunately I'm the oldest--I like to hope that means I'll b the 1st to go). When that happens, I quickly distract myself. In some ways, I think that would b worse than any loss I've known yet (I'd survive that, though. But if I ever lost my son...).

In other news, I'm still waiting for the 'Certificate. A bit of bad news--the respite hours we...I mean I...am getting from (I think) CPRI (I have a hard time remember who's doing what for us) r being cut from 8 hours a week to 5, despite the case worker's efforts to get them INCREASED (decreased funding, I'm told). ASDC might help, though, with funding that I can use for respite (not that I want to get away from my son, but there r things that have to b done that I can't do with him with me--like Christmas shopping).

I'm experiencing, as I knew & was told I would, the long lonely period that comes after the funeral is over & the family, friends, & other helpers have gone back to their own busy lives. So, maybe now more than ever, thanks again, everyone, for your continued sympathy & support.

ChadTower:


--- Quote from: lcmgadgets on December 03, 2012, 02:31:50 pm ---(not that I want to get away from my son, but there r things that have to b done that I can't do with him with me--like Christmas shopping).

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Sometimes you just have to get away.  I've done a little bit of this.  It's not about how much you love the person.  Sometimes you just have to go do something and be you again for 3 hours.  See a movie, eat a burger, take a nap.  It's not about being selfish.  It's basic mental health.  You can't be under constant pressure 24/7/365 no matter how much you love the person you are helping.

matt4949:

Sorry I posted in the wrong place.

linda john:

I love how this is taking off.

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