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Dervacumen:

--- Quote from: Vigo on October 19, 2011, 10:38:12 am ---New update on the neighbor painting situation. This morning I found a note on my car from the neighbors saying that the painters will be back and they will be painting by hand and they want me to move my car for the day. The letter was polite as well, but given my history with my neighbor, I am having a hard time agreeing to even this. On the other hand, if I let them use my driveway, we will just be done with this whole situation. My wife is sick of watching our property like a hawk. We got better things than fight with our neighbors even more.

Here is the short list of why I don't feel up to clearing my driveway.


* When we first moved in to our house, the neighbors asked to use our driveway for yard work. We agreed, and they chopped down our fence on us. The only reason we didn't call the cops is we were new and didn't want want to burn bridges.
* Nobody has enough courtesy to tell me about these things more than the day of.
* The painter was a real ---tallywhacker--- to my wife. If I was there, I would have been tempted to take a swing at the guy. I'll leave it at that.
* In the last year, the neighbor has also had roofers in and a carpenter redoing their porch. On both occasions they made home of our driveway as well.
* Our roses got pretty badly damaged on Monday.
* Our city has a property lookup that is public to view. We searched our property yesterday, and found the neighbors posted this bogus complaint on our house:
"The house is in shambles and they don't take care of it. Their exterior paint is peeling, their retaining wall is crumbling and the front of the house isn't even usable and the roof is falling apart. When is someone going to do something about this house?"

The last time the neighbor's made a complaint against our property, they said that we were housing illegal immigrants in our attic. Out of reaction to the complaint, the city took away our Homestead property tax exemption, which meant our property tax went up by like $2000 among other issues.

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Wow.  Okay, the gloves are off.  I'd park as close to the property line as possible and take a vacation day, then open up the car doors on your side of the property and spend all day giving it a meticulous cleaning, so you can observe the whole thing.  I'd also set up a camera on a tripod to film it so the background also gets the side of your neighbor's house in view.  Tell them you're taking video for a website.  You are.  You can post it here when the time is appropriate.

Dervacumen:

--- Quote from: pinballjim on October 20, 2011, 02:39:22 pm ---I don't get it - why would anyone leave a bagel or cookie tray on your door step?

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I'm hoping this doesn't go to P&R but the bagel and tray are both derogatory references to Jewish culture.  Could be a starting point.
I need to learn how to respond to multiple posts within one thread.

Dervacumen:

--- Quote from: pinballjim on October 20, 2011, 03:17:06 pm ---
Think about it - is this really worth stressing over?  Why not be the better person and let them paint their house? 


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If you've been singled out and targeted it's likely you'll get fed up at some point.  They call that going postal.

gabe:

--- Quote from: pinballjim on October 20, 2011, 03:17:06 pm ---Some people on this thread are -really- weird.  Poisoning dogs and setting up cameras?  Threatening to call INS to harass a bunch of poor guys that have to paint houses for a living?  REALLY?


Think about it - is this really worth stressing over?  Why not be the better person and let them paint their house? 


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My thoughts exactly.

It sounds like you deserve to have one another as neighbors. I'm glad I don't live next to either one of you.

Vigo:
I've laid out a lot of my history with my neighbor's. They have asked to use our driveway before for yardwork and we were happy to help. My wife emptied the driveway for the day and we came to find they chopped down our fence.

We have in fact been the better person on many counts. They once wrote us a letter stating that they are going to trample our flowers that we put up in place of the fence that they tore down. I wrote back that I wanted to discuss this face to face and we can work things out. I even gave them a bunch of candy as a gift with the letter as a peace offering. That was a week before they dumped a cookie tray at our doorstep.

The truth is there is not one thing I have done against them, lobbing the bagel in their yard is probably about as bad as I have gotten. I have reported them when they parked in front of my driveway before, and when they put out their garbage in the middle of my driveway ramp, I push it back to their property, but that is about it.

We haven't even had to tell them they couldn't use our driveway in this case. When the the guy came to my door and talked to my wife, she didn't even say no, she just said that they would have to wait for me. My wife offered the compromise right away and they refused that day. Yesterday, when they agreed to the compromise via note, they didn't even show up so we couldn't even talk to them.  :dunno



--- Quote from: gabe on October 20, 2011, 03:35:35 pm ---
--- Quote from: pinballjim on October 20, 2011, 03:17:06 pm ---Some people on this thread are -really- weird.  Poisoning dogs and setting up cameras?  Threatening to call INS to harass a bunch of poor guys that have to paint houses for a living?  REALLY?


Think about it - is this really worth stressing over?  Why not be the better person and let them paint their house? 


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My thoughts exactly.

It sounds like you deserve to have one another as neighbors. I'm glad I don't live next to either one of you.

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So I guess I am wondering, when haven't I been the better person, and what is a single thing that makes be a bad neighbor to live next to?

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