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newman117:

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--- Quote from: newman117 on July 30, 2010, 03:29:21 pm --- And I wasn't asking advice about women... I was asking for tips on how to FORGET someone.

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Sorry ... I was responding to your obvious and desperate need for the former, which would hopefully help you avoid the ridiculous situation that you got yourself into and then chose to unload here.

 ;D

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 :lol  Microfont, it has its uses



--- Quote from: shateredsoul on July 30, 2010, 08:24:05 pm ---wait, is she hot? like super hot? maybe that's why..



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actually back in this thread when someone mentioned pics and I wasn't paying attention, I thought they were talking about the girl.  Can we now take this thread in the direction it deserves  :pics :pics :pics




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 :laugh2: Yeah she was hot. I think I was just love blind, you know? I didn't listen to anyone else. Seeing all the things she did, wow she really was crazy!

danny_galaga:

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--- Quote from: DaOld Man on July 29, 2010, 07:27:15 pm ---Yeah, but she freaked out because he got a call.
I'll give you that it aint nice to interrupt the date by taking a phone call, but.. she has dated another guy when this guy thought he had a chance, and she freaked out from the phone call and made a scene, which tells me the young lady has problems, or she might just be practicing the art of bee-atching

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Now that's a guy who gets it! Thank you man!!  She made one hell of a scene too! There were other people eating and she started screaming and I tried calming but that worked a lil bit till she called her parents and left...

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Ok, on a serious note. If that's what she is like, you are definitely better off moving on. Everyone here will tell you that once you  meet another girl, you won't even think about this one. Until then you'll half be thinking 'but she's the one, she's perfect. etc'. I know I did. I was heartbroken for months.

Oh, and I missed that bit about you answering your mobile phone on the date. Are you a doctor on call? NO?

then  :whap

danny_galaga:

--- Quote from: hyiu on July 29, 2010, 11:26:25 pm ---
in real life, I don't turn off my phone when I'm dating my gf...

I do put it on silence / vibrate when I'm in a show / movie / dinner / ... etc.
and will check msg promptly afterwards.



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If you check your messages during a movie, then

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newman117:

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--- Quote from: newman117 on July 28, 2010, 11:20:27 pm ---So school was out and May came and she got a boyfriend and call me a crybaby and all but... yeah I cried alot.
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You know, a lot of people, both men and women have a hard time admitting this. I commend you for having the courage in doing so, that takes guts  :applaud:


--- Quote from: newman117 on July 28, 2010, 11:20:27 pm ---So graduation day came and I invited her and we were alone in a porch sitting down and we were looking at each others eyes but didn't kiss cause she told me she had a boyfriend and then she left. So later I called her and she said "Why didn't you kiss me?" I was like confused.
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Right there, that should have been a sign to hit the eject button. Seriously man, as you grow older you'll find that the women who are the least-crazy are the ones that are keepers. The rest are just drama-filled wastes of time. Every woman you meet is nuts, it's their nature. They're emotional, irrational and  rely on us to be their rock. It's not sexist, it's just social-science.
You just gotta find the girl that is the least crazy out of the bunch, the one who carries the least amount of drama with her. Those are the good ones.


--- Quote from: newman117 on July 28, 2010, 11:20:27 pm ---She told me she believed me about me being innocent about the rumors that someone was spreading. Later we stopped talking. Then she called me one day and started talking again and she told me she wasn't going to leave her boyfriend cause she loved him very much. Then she called me one day and asked me if I could go with her and spent the day with her. That day I kissed her and she kissed me even though she had a boyfriend. Yeah!!! What an accomplishment!! Sorry hehe...

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What are you thinking man?!  Never "cut another man's grass", that's just going to lead to trouble.  What if her bf is the jealous nut-case type? If this was a girl you wanted to "be with" for a while, do you really want to tell people the story that you "stole" her from another guy, completely clueless that she intended on betraying him? I'm sorry, but that's ---meecrob----bag territory. Don't be so proud of yourself for this, it is definitely not an accomplishment.


--- Quote from: newman117 on July 28, 2010, 11:20:27 pm ---anyways that happened one month ago. After i kissed her she told her boyfriend she needed time to think. And I kept talking to her. Until one day I asked her out and she said yes. So we were eating and one friend(girl) called me and she got very jealous and very mad she even started screaming.She left that place. And when I got home I called her and she told me she knew who I was that I was a liar and that she didn't trust me anymore. Anyway that happened right around June 20th. I haven't talked to her in a long time. And she keeps popping in my head and I really want to forget her. Any help? I know this isn't the forum for whiny guys like me so I'll probably get flamed... please guys be supportive... thanks 

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- Keep busy like the others say.  That's what men do...we distract ourselves from the drama/emotional responses with some good ol' fashioned hard work. That's old-school. It's therapeutic, as well as productive!
- Surround yourself with stuff that you enjoy, do things you can "complete" (an arcade cabinet is a good one). This'll help keep you concentrated on something, as well as build your self-confidence. Men need more accomplishments to help us feel secure with ourselves. It sounds to me that you could use more confidence if you're still hung-up on this one chick...there are better girls out there...

It's like I always say, "be a shotgun, not a sniper rifle". You know what I mean right?  I shotgun spreads, hitting multiple targets. A sniper rifle concentrates on one target at a time. Date a bunch, get a comparative view of the catalog...don't get hung up on one target!

- Don't completely fill your head worrying about girls/sex. That'll come naturally if you let it. Concentrate on yourself, figure out who you are, what you want. I mean, you just graduated...you have so much time, and so much experiences coming your way. Do you really want to waste all your efforts on chicks?
- Lay off the pot/alcohol...this feels great temporarily, but it doesn't help you in the long run. It'll also alienate you from the world, which is the opposite of what you need...you don't wanna be in that head-space, believe me. Don't lock yourself away, drowning yourself in a bottle, or smoking yourself dumb...get out there! Which brings me to my next point:
- Go on a trip!  Even if it's to another city, or the next state (I'm assuming you're American)...just get away, get a change of scenery, even if it's just for a weekend. Going away really gives you perspective on things, and shows you how small everything really is.

I hope this helps in anyway.
Good luck.


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Hahahaha her boyfriend wasn't the jealous type... he actually was dumb. I feel sorry for the guy really. Before i went on a date with her, he called her and asked her: "Hey what are you doing tomorrow?" And she told him "Gonna spend the day with Kevin(me)..." And he hung up. 1 week later after the date, she dumped him. I feel pretty sorry for him. Wow just thinking about it... dang this life is hard.

HanoiBoi:
Newman,

First, be truthful to yourself...is there any truth to the 'rumors' that she heard early on?  Is this girl who called anything more than a friend, or better yet do you have feelings for this friend?  If you do, girls can tell.

If there's not even a smidge of truth to the rumors and the friend is truly only that and you really, really like this girl then you need to work on her.  Don't worry about the right thing or the wrong thing to say to 'get the girl', just be truthful and honest with her.  (Don't do it in a letter, email or text)

Don't think she's as crazy as some people have deduced.  She may have heard other rumors that she's trying to process.  Good chance she's battling with what she hears versus what she feels.  If what she's heard is true, she'll feel like the biggest fool for giving you a shot.  If it's not and she doesn't give you a shot, she could regret it.  My guess is that's her dilemma. 

Put your heart on the line if you think she's worth it.  If you truly believe she's the one, pursue it with truth.  You've got nothing to lose.  If she doesn't want to give it a try, wish her the best and move along.

And yes, I am speaking from experience.  I heard rumors about a girl that I had started dating.  At first I was very standoffish around her and I felt hurt and betrayed.  Eventually, I confronted her with what I had heard, with details, and we discussed it in depth.  We got to the bottom of it and what it came down to was jealous people saying hurtful things.  If we had never talked it out, who knows how things would have turned out.  I've been with that girl for 20 years now.

Best of luck to you.

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