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newman117:
Hello.Well I know this isn't the forum for that but hell... Ok I've been lurking around this site since March and I love it. Anyway I was building my arcade machine and I met a girl. I got caught up in that and I forgot my build and I forgot everything else! I fell in love with this girl... everything was fine. There was a Guns N' Roses concert coming up and I invited her... it was fine until some :censored: started saying stuff about me and she believed him! He said that I said that she was a very horny girl (yeah... I know) and I told her don't believe the lies people tell but she didn't trust me. Anyways as time went by I told her that I was going to prove my innocence. So school was out and May came and she got a boyfriend and call me a crybaby and all but... yeah I cried alot. So graduation day came and I invited her and we were alone in a porch sitting down and we were looking at each others eyes but didn't kiss cause she told me she had a boyfriend and then she left. So later I called her and she said "Why didn't you kiss me?" I was like confused.She told me she believed me about me being innocent about the rumors that someone was spreading. Later we stopped talking. Then she called me one day and started talking again and she told me she wasn't going to leave her boyfriend cause she loved him very much. Then she called me one day and asked me if I could go with her and spent the day with her. That day I kissed her and she kissed me even though she had a boyfriend. Yeah!!! What an accomplishment!! Sorry hehe... anyways that happened one month ago. After i kissed her she told her boyfriend she needed time to think. And I kept talking to her. Until one day I asked her out and she said yes. So we were eating and one friend(girl) called me and she got very jealous and very mad she even started screaming.She left that place. And when I got home I called her and she told me she knew who I was that I was a liar and that she didn't trust me anymore. Anyway that happened right around June 20th. I haven't talked to her in a long time. And she keeps popping in my head and I really want to forget her. Any help? I know this isn't the forum for whiny guys like me so I'll probably get flamed... please guys be supportive... thanks  

jimmy2x2x:
Occupy yourself, stay busy - too busy!

Start a project page for your cab on this forum, start discussing your plans, ask for opinions and advice

She will be on your mind for a while, and it doesn't sound like she is coming back to you any time soon.  So stay focused on the important things in your life, have a busy schedule outside of your commitments, the memory will fade in time.

Ond:
I agree with jimmy2x2x keeping busy is good,  I'm sure you'll hear advice from various knobs like "just move on, grow a pair, be a man etc etc, ignore it it's bollocks as advice.

Here's a practical idea that will help you move on. (OND's 3 Step Method to get over the chick ;D)  It worked for me (I won't say how many years ago  :P). 

Step 1.  Admit to yourself honestly she's outta your life for good  DO NOT PROCEED TO STEP 2 UNTIL YOU"VE DONE THIS.

Step 2.  Keep a diary, just a notebook will do, every day write something in it about how you feel.  If you feel miserable and miss her write it down. This diary is for NO ONE but yourself to read so it's OK to pour all your self pity into it.  Here's why IT WORKS, when you feel good about something write it down too, every now and then read through everything from start to finish.  Even after only a few weeks you should be able to see yourself getting over her just by reading your own words. 

Step 3. When the time is right and you have 'moved on' and realised you don't need her, burn the diary. (this step is important and kinda cathartic in it's own right).

You can do it, everyone goes through loss in some way or another.  When you've done it tell someone else how you did it.

shateredsoul:
hmm it's hard to tell how old ya are, but siince you just finished school I'd assume young since you mention school.

It matters because when you're young every girl you meet seems to be that girl, I had a girl I couldn't forget about and thought about her even as I dated other girls.  But part of what helped me get over it was realizing that it was fine if I thought about her.. I didn't need to stress about that or spend time trying not to think about her (that makes it worse). I would suggest cutting off the contact completely. This girl doesn't seem too good for yah.  If she broke up with you but she was a good person, laid back, nice, fun then I could see why you'd want to keep hanging out to see if things spark up again.  That lust and excitement you can get with other girls, but it's hard to find someone who gets you and doesn't overreact. count your blessing move on.

I agree with the other guys though, but I would add to not play video games. Well, at least not alone.  That'll just give you time to think about her! Social things work best. Exercise, hanging out, going out to play pool, beaches (if any are nearby), call up other girls and just hang out as friends, take some time to clean yourself up (depending on what type of girl you like.. your getting older, getting a better look will get you to meet more girls.  Well that's what my friend told me, but then he started a Spanish rockband and now he's back to wearing jeans and tshirts.  hah!).

This sort of reminds me of my brother.  He dated my sister in law (always a bad idea) and he would do anything for her, she would tell him come over, he would. She would do dumb jokes, he would play along. If I dated someone that was at my beck and call.. i'd lose interest.

but man, she screamed at you for no reason. Imagine if you dated for a while and got serious? How's she going to react when you guys are under real stress?

Blanka:

--- Quote from: jimmy2x2x on July 28, 2010, 11:35:51 pm ---Occupy yourself, stay busy - too busy!
--- End quote ---

<Sentimental chick movie modus>

--- Quote ---Work hard, that'll save you.
Only work will see you through this.

 
                   
Don't mind him.
he's just a guy who's lost his wife.

 
                   
What I think we really need is ...
change.

 
                   
Good idea. Take a few weeks off.
take Jonah fishing.

 
                   
No, real change.
A new city.

 
                   
Some place where I don't think
of Maggie at every corner.

 
                   
Where are you gonna go?

 
                   
I was thinking about Seattle.
--- End quote ---
</sentimental chick movie modus>

He has a point though :)

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